The True Meaning Of Love

What's the true meaning of love? Again, let me take a moment to define love. According to Dictionary.com, love is "a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person".

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In simpler terms, love is "a total, complete consideration and intense devotion for another person".

Okay, now that you've read them both, can you see the vast difference between the two meanings?

Love is not an obscure pie-in-the-sky concept. Love is action. It's very hands-on. And it's very do-or-die.

The true meaning of love is not simply "I'm very fond of you" or "you make me feel really good". If your love is based solely on how good your spouse makes you feel, what happens when your spouse makes you angry beyond belief?

Or what happens when your spouse betrays your trust? Or when you're not talking to each other? Or when you're only arguing with each other?

Don't even mention when you're not sleeping together because of a disagreement. Or worse yet, when you've moved into the guest bedroom because you're disgusted with your spouse.

Is Your Love Fair-Weather?

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Will your love cause you to abandon ship when the storms arise in your marriage?

Or will it compel you to stand your ground and safely guide your marriage through the storms to calm waters?

The choice is yours to make. What's the deciding factor? Your view of love, and how seriously you believe in it.

The true meaning of love does not depend on the weather conditions of your marriage...fair weather vs. stormy weather. Love always reaches out to touch the good in each other, regardless of what's going on. So let's break down the definition of love even further. You need to truly see how marvelous it really is.

Okay, if you analyze each word from the above definition of love, this is what you get: "an absolute, undivided, uncompromised or unmodified careful thought, regard and respect, along with an extreme kind of selfless affection and dedication, for another person". WOW! Truly powerful. That's really deep.

That leaves no ambiguity regarding the true meaning of love. There's no room for doubting what to do when you're facing a difficult situation with your spouse. When the seas become rough, you don't drop the lifeboat and abandon your marriage. Of course, if you're dealing with spouse abuse, that's totally different. By all means, get to safety and don't look back!

Truly Dedicate Yourselves To Each Other

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But I'm talking to the rest of you.

Those who are bored with your spouses.

As well as those who are actively looking for a way out of your marriages because "married life doesn't agree with me anymore".

What are you doing? Love makes no concession for your boredom! Nor for you wanting to "hook up" with someone else!

Look at the true meaning of love again: "an absolute, uncompromised, careful regard and respect along WITH an extreme kind of SELFLESS affection and dedication for another person."

You are responsible for your actions. Have you thought of how you could transform your marriage by truly putting your spouse's needs first? Instead of having marital affairs, listen to your spouse and give them what they need.

Do you realize that if you devote the same time, care and attention to your spouse that you would give to your mistress or beau, you'd have a great marriage?

Instead of turning your back on your spouse when you're toiling through bad times, your love drives you to reach out and bear each others pains.

Love causes you to comfort each other, even when you've just had the biggest argument of your marriage. How many hurtful things have you said or done to your spouse? How many times have you been forgiven for them? Why? LOVE.

Embrace Your Journey Together

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Real love demands that all of your tender affection, care, dedication and respect is given to your spouse selflessly.

That means it's not all about "me, me, me".

You're willing to sacrifice how you may really feel to make your spouse happy.

You're willing to forgive your spouse when you've been wronged. You're able to look past your sometimes volatile emotions to see and touch that beautiful person you married.

Love allows each of you to be your best. That's what the true meaning of love is all about. If you see your spouse hurting, you want to make them better. You want to take their pain away, even if you're the cause of it.

Sometimes, if the pain is deep, they may push you away initially. It may be best to give them time to process their hurt and anger so they can embrace you again. Just don't give up!

Sure, their actions may cause you hurt and pain. But do you walk out on your marriage because of a temporary heartache? Do you retaliate, regardless of if you did wrong or not? Do you shut your spouse out, too, and put your marriage on cruise control with no one to guide it?

NO! You push through those hard times. You dig your heels in deeper and hold on to each other. You even carry your spouse through if they're not able to walk the distance themselves. You never lose sight of each other. Never let go of each other.

The true meaning of love is simple. It's an all-out, selfless affection and dedication to each other. You immerse yourselves in each other so deeply that you easily see your own reflection when you look at your spouse...no, not literally. But you leave no room for anything else. No room for anyone else. That's what love is.

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