Lack Of Attention In Marriage Is An Invitation For Trouble
For me, I was fond of my husband's laid-back attitude...which balanced my "passionate" nature quite well. Whatever that special quality may have been, I'm willing to bet it's still there. You just don't notice it as much because you don't do the things you used to do to bring it out. Why do you feel like you can relax and never do another thing for your spouse after marriage? Did you forget that they are indeed human and have feelings and needs? No one likes to be taken for granted. It causes feelings of resentment, anger and frustration. Those feelings lead to disagreements and arguments. Which lead to more frustration, anger, resentment...and more disagreements and arguments. It's a vicious cycle that keeps repeating itself unless you get to the cause of the problem...lack of attention in marriage. Continue To Date Your Mate
You were very attentive when dating, which elicited a favorable response from your spouse. Why do you think you can be less attentive now-or worse, indifferent and distant-and obtain a positive response? The same things you did to woo your mate while dating them should be the same things you continue to do for the same reason...to woo them!It's not that your spouse will leave you or love you any less if you didn't, that's not what I'm saying. A lot of times, once you marry, all the niceties stop. You develop a mundane routine where you MIGHT do something special on a birthday or anniversary. Life is full of moments to lavish attention in marriage and to celebrate love...why relegate them to just birthdays and anniversaries? The world is full of girls and guys who recognize a good man or woman when they come across one, never mind if it's your spouse! Competition for your mate's attention is all around, and they have one objective-to woo your mate away! Don't let that happen...continue to date your mate throughout your marriage. Pay attention to them, address their needs, SHOW that you love and appreciate them. Treat Your Spouse To Random Acts Of Attention
It only takes a minute to render an act of kindness and thoughtfulness that will bring a flood of love and admiration into your mate's heart for you.That's what showing good spousal attention in marriage is all about. If you haven't done something nice for your spouse in a while, here's your opportunity. You already know what to do (if you don't know what your spouse likes by now, shame on you!)...just go for it. Do it because you love your mate and don't expect anything in return. But I can guarantee that you won't regret it. Even though you're not expecting anything in return, that one act of kindness will net a huge reward for you. Just don't let it be the last time you do something nice for your spouse. Now, let's look at another common marriage issue...marital affairs. Return from Attention In Marriage to Marriage Issues
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